Okay, well...I'm not afraid to post my dating stories! I've learned from every person I've dated. What I want to say is that dating is part of the healing process. When you approach it with absolutely no expectations other than meeting another human being, the pressure is off. I've been single three years, divorced for two. I have not dated anyone longer than three weeks. I spent 18 months finding myself, practicing GAL, and building amazing friendships I once dreamed about. So, why date? Because it's time for me to heal, grow, and learn in the context of a relationship. I would love for someone to challenge me in ways I never had in my marriage. I want to continue down my path, but I would love someone beside me. Will it happen? Absolutely! I just refuse to settle, so it's going to take a bit longer. I don't think he's online, but it's been a great place to practice and to learn my boundaries. I do have to say I've met some "interesting" characters. So, anyone want to share a story? Something humorous maybe??
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Most of you have already heard my stories - the hermit of Brigadoon, young men sending me photos of their junk, Mr. Big Lots.
I have to say, though, I really haven't had any terrible dates. A couple guys who were nice and looked like their pictures, but just no chemistry. Overall, though, I'd say my batting average with online dating is pretty good so far.
My best friend hasn't done so well, and we finally figured out - she's just not a visual person. So she's completely unable to tell if she'd be attracted to someone from their profile. I, on the other hand, appear to be a pretty good reader of faces and reader-between-the-lines of their profiles. And the three guys I've really dated from online (past a coffee date) remain my very good friends to this day.
I met my STBXH online and before that had a 6 month relationship with a guy I met online. Like KML I think I'm good at "between the lines" Part of my job is talking to people and deciding if they would be a good fit, so I guess it is a natural strength that people either have or don't..
MR BIG LOTS - LMAO!!!!! That happened to me once. Who are these people??
I think in the past pre-M I went wrong by thinking it was a great match based on emotion. That high of butterflies and passion, etc. And now, I'm looking at things through the lens of friendship, communication, not trying to immediately suss out everything about them and need to know where everything is going.
Funny story: I once ordered a fish on a date and when it came it was an ENTIRE fish. eyes, tail, bones, and all. You try having a conversation, looking poised and graceful, while dissecting what's on your plate!
I always looked at online dating at an experience , maybe you'll meet someone nice, maybe you'll meet someone who becomes a friend, or maybe you'll have a funny story to tell.
I'm just about to sign up for online dating today. I'm a bit scared, just trying to find the right site is overwhelming (obvs won't mention names here as it gets people banned!). But it's exciting.
Julia, what happened with Joe? Maybe you said a while back and I overlooked it. Either way, long distance relationships are hard especially if you want to make something of them. Good luck with the on line stuff. All I seemed to attract were guys old enough to be my Dad! No thanks!!
Kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
No haven't posted about him. Well he's just being lame really, contact has slowly dropped off after I realised I was doing *all* the work. I think he has post trip blues and it isn't personal, I see from fb that he is the same with his friends and he already told me he was the same with his sister. Interestingly my guy friend from NZ has just come back and he is exactly the same, just sits playing computer games all day. However, I just thought I would leave Joe to it and focus on my own life, including dating again. You never know what will happen in the future so I thought I would just see what is out there in the meantime.
There seems to be a good site which is where your best friend writes a review of you, there seems to be all young people on there and it looks quite fun so I thought I'd give it a go! It feels weird to do as Joe and I are still hanging somewhat but he is gone for now and I don't do 'waiting' anymore!
OK, it was a coffee date, and she said to me about dating at our age "Whatis, we have to be very careful, we don't have time to mess up again!" It still makes me laugh
Hi JCJ fellow UKer here....a coworker of mine met his girlfriend of 18 months on that site. He had a female friend of ours write his. I think it works best if you get someone from the opposite sex. Because she writes what a girl would like to hear, and a guy writes what a guy wants to hear etc.
