IH Separation-continuing to grow as we grow apart

[breakdownbill]

Whoa, got loads of posts to reply to.. gonna try & get back to everyone tonight.

Arsene, I'm going to reply to you first

It's always a personal choice and no one should be made to feel like they are a doormat for sticking with the techniques prescribed by MWD.

I think there's alot to read into this statement, firstly I agree with you completely that this is your sitch & no matter what advice or intentions people have on here, ultimately it's YOU who has to live with the consequences of whatever plan you follow.

The part I've highlighted in bold sounds like you feel that the feedback you've been getting from some people on here (myself included) is making you out to be a doormat.

What you've got to remember about people's advice and criticism on here, is that is offered, but noone has to take it if they don't want to. Everybody's input is based largely on their own personal experience, to quote Morrissey,

How can anybody possibly say they know how I feel? When they are they and only I am I

The biggest difference to your sitch that makes it unique from other threads that I am aware of is the issue of your residency and contact with your D8 reliant on your W. That is a huge weight on your shoulders that only you know how much it influences your decisions in dealing with your sitch.

You have more to lose than just your marriage here, your R with your daughter, being in her life, being her dad is also in the balance.

I wish you the best Arsene & hope it works out for you, no matter how you approach busting your divorce.

Trust your instincts & your gut when you are in doubt, let the advice you get here inform your choices not influence them.

Take care chief

Bill