In general, what types of things will make your H feel that he's done well? Do certain words do it? Is he looking for actions? What about in work situations? What makes him feel good about himself?
My observation about men in general would be that they need to be praised, even for the littlest things (even if they don't admit it).
My H used to say that he felt that he couldn't make me happy. For me, I think it had a lot to do with my facial expression, and also not acknowledging and thanking him for the "acts of service" that he apparently did to make me happy (which also happens to be my 2nd LL).
I think words of affirmation are #1 on his list. He used to love getting cards and letters from me. I "think" he feels good when people notice his efforts and tell him so.
That last paragraph could have been said by my H word for word. But he's in so much "pain" that I think any words of affirmation now are just scratching the surface.
