Divorced #5. And I think Im getting it..

[sweetbabyred]

Mrs. D, I also miss having my H in bed next to me too, but in the last year have never asked to lie next to him.

For the last month or so, I also haven't contacted him at all, except to confirm that he's bringing by a check to pay his bills. But you know what, he never goes more than a day or two without texting me a good morning or good night. And he often calls after I respond to a text. And he's probably stayed over 1-2 nights a week. But I've made sure that he has been the one to initiate it.

My H is also confused and I'm not sure what he's going to decide to do, but I have to make sure that he doesn't feel that I'm forcing him or pressuring him to decide one way or another. If we do R, I want to make sure that he never has second thoughts and feel that I pressured him into coming back.

We've been separated for over a year and it's very hard, but I have to be patient and let him work on things himself. And he has dated several women, but he has to do what he thinks he has to do to be able to finally decide what he wants.

If you want to contact him, just come post on your thread instead. Give him the space/time he needs to work on himself.