just to make it more clear - for a starting point - start noticing which are the things he does that make him feel like he is "pleasing mommy". then find the 180 there - the 180 is not a direct reproach against him or to make him feel bad - you have to find a way to do it where it is neutral and more of your stepping away from it, if that makes sense.
if you have been showing a lot of appreciation for those things that he does in an effort to validate him - show it in another way - do it yourself, first. then you take away that option in a neutral way and make the space to lead him towards more healthy actions for himself
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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
