Zig, I don't see it as distancer/pursuer. Not in the way everyone talks about here. Others have mentioned that as well.
In all honesty, it's me that's distancing (and always have been). He's the one in the kitchen already cooking dinner for tonight. He's the one that has been doing the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. It's like a little kid doing stuff so Mommy will be proud. He basically said that last night.
