H got up to go to the bathroom, and asked me in sort of a distressed voice if I had slept out here..... He's come out twice since, and seems to be tiptoeing around here
can you see it RoRo? not what you're thinking he might be feelling but the actions themselves?
it's the distanced/pursuer thing going on here.
lean back and keep leaning back away from him..
look at what just went down - beyond the emotional stuff and tears and tenderness.he basically told you that he's leaving anyway - you keep being there for him, he keeps leaving
not saying to do anything negative or call him on anything. just lean away from him - don't give him all that much right now - then, when you sense it's right - you can acknowledge his stuff some more. and that includes not saying things like you can watch tv in here - basically don't take care of even the smallest needs. it's not you getting back at him - it's you pulling the blanket around you and taking care of YOU
do the feral cat thing... but with the attitude that "I'm feeding myself BEFORE I fee you!"
have a good rest - you deserve it - this emotional stuff is like 5 nights of no sleep, not one. glad you did the sensible thing and not drive
((((((( )))))) zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
