I finally asked him if we could try to spend some time together "outside" the bedroom and he says he's not ready yet. He says he feels weird about it - on one hand, he's still married and on the other, still in a new relationship.
I explained what I see from my POV: if his relationship is on a "pause", then he is free to do 'whatever' it takes to figure out what he wants. If that's an easy 'date' or s_x or just a drive around the countryside to talk - what's the difference??
My gut tells me he is afraid to feel more and I told him as much. He's still not sure if he can trust me, I tell him that it will take time. He's still undecided, but talks about what people would think/say if we were to reconcile.
He talks about what life would be like together - both good and bad scenarios. When he thinks about what it would do to OW, he gets upset and blames himself for moving on too quickly. (He had planned to take the summer "off" and only start dating, like now.)
As I left yesterday morning, we said we were going to take a few days break, but then he sends me an email last night to see if I wanted to come over...I had other plans, so he wrote back it was probably for the best...
I figure either way, s_x or not, I will get hurt if he decides that I'm too much of a risk to try again. So I will enjoy the time we have together and if nothing else, I will give him memories to last a lifetime.
