Some out of the house activities: -Is there an "artsy" part of town, they usually have later night things going. -Last showing of movies (after 9 o'clock), especially the discount theaters. -24 hour gym? -Sometimes I would just go to a nice spot by the river or up on a bluff and park, think, read, meditate, etc. -A library, if the hours are late enough, especially if you have a college campus in town. A great way to expand your knowledge and mind. -Heck, I spent a lot of time in another room (door shut) reading (and I read a ton of books over the fall/winter spring). I wouldn't leave the room, W would have to come to me if there was something she wanted or whatever.
I would make sure to have no dinner or anything waiting for him, let him figure it out.
I know the OP thing is a bear to let go of, but if you stay out of the way and "let" H run with it, it will hasten the resolution of the sitch, one way or another. I stayed out of the way, and W's 4 OMs (over the whole 3-4 year course of this) all ended up showing their true colors and "disappointing" W much faster than if I were hampering her activities. The more I would interfere (in the beginning), the more attractive the OM and more exciting it was for her to do what she was doing...pushing them closer, and I made myself the "evil parent" getting in the way of her "happiness" (teenager thinking). Staying out of the way made the process faster...and I have W's broken computer keyboards to prove it! lol...
Its kinda like raising kids...sometimes you just have to let them eat all their halloween candy at once that night, so they make themselves sick, but by their own doing...Then they learn the hard way the reality we parents were trying to keep them from, and we parents are not the bad guy, since the did it all by their own choice...That make sense?
Deep breathes, read up on detachment and practice it. And pray for H, and your family, and yourself.
Hang in there!
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
