Rough: Hang in there, im right there with you. I knew alot of our situations were the same, but ours is earily similar, at least right now. My wife and I have been seperated for over 3 months now and we haven't had one 'real' conversation. We talk about our son, thats really all. We do occasionally chat about how work is going or something along those lines but only when we happen to find ourselves in a situation where we have too. In general she avoids any interaction with me.
I know she thinks she's co-dependent and somehow relying on someone else in any way is bad to her. I dont think co-dependency in and of itself is a bad thing personally, but she's got her head so screwed around the fact that if she's not completely indepedent then its bad so Im not sure if we'll ever get a chance. I also know she's been reading a book on codependency and detaching so me being dark may absolutely be a terrible idea, but I don't have any others so its what im doing.
Its a terrible position we find ourselves in, but im with Denver, you've got to stand for what you believe. In 3 months mine has shown me almost no signs that there is any chance that anything between us will change, but thats ok, im going to love her all the way through it and if we divorce i'll know that I did all I could. I'm sure thats as little comfort to you now as it is to me, but its the situation that has been forced upon us so we MUST make the best of it.
