SS - how are you - it seems so inappropriate to say "I'm happy for you" because you are in such a strong, self-confident position about what you want and where you are at, that I'm in awe.
Like i said before - and in other words - you're shining now - and you made that happen all by yourself
Can it be that your h FINALLY saw that you are too good a woman to leave? I hope so, and I hope he has the sense to do the right things so that you don't
((( )))
zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
thank you, zig! i'm doing so much better than i was in the past. i don't know how it happened? i guess i just had enough of someone thinking and saying i was not good enough.
after 16 years of giving and sacrificing, i finally had enough.
i really think writing down all that i did for him, his family, and his kids and all he and his daughter (and some of his family) did TO me, helped tremedously!
i had long ago appologized to him and his daughter for what i was responsible. most of it was how i reacted to resentment.
but i have never called them on what they did to me. i didn't want to lay out my own grievances and just look like i was trying to even up the score. i truly wanted to forgive them without that.
but actually writing it all down (it has taken some time and thought) has helped me to see that i am a good woman and he would be a fool to leave me (not that i'm tooting my own horn).
i really recommend it for everyone on here. it gives back self confidence and worth when someone else may be trying to tear it down. it opened my eyes and helped me to know that i would be able to have another "love" in my future because i'm worth it.
YOU ARE TOO, ZIG!!!
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
I kinda sorta knew it these past few months - vaguely - but oddly enough, reading what you've posted in your last thread - just plumb out cinched it for me..
I'm going to do what you suggested, SS, thanks - make a list of all the things I did and do well. I don't need him to know from me - I just need to be clear about it for myself
Thanks SS for setting such a beautiful example of inner personal strength for all of us here
trailblazer, you...
hey, btw - I am just leaving now after finishing work, to go get the toilet brush. Hmm, I do so hope they have a great range of colors and styles, because i am now VERY VERY PICKY I'm sure as hell not buying the same one I had before, because now I know those kind just walk off with no warning
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
Zig's new toilet brush is installed and been used for the very first time! She is delighted with the new style, color and efficiency which has provided her with a very shiny, clean toilet bowl
Zig declares that she has already forgotten what the old brush looked like , and highly recommends revamping toilet brush styles every once in a blue moon.
Zig is inviting the Picnic Sisters and everyone else over to the blanket tonight, to drink, be merry and she's bringing pics of her new toilet brush for any one who wants to see
If she ever does find the old one - it's getting tossed....
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
you don't say!
