Hi tumbling , i hope you are staying strong and well done for hanging in there and doing what you are doing . I'm new on here so i dont really have much advice yet . I was intrigued by you description of an 'abandonment trigger ' . Ive never heard of one but from how you describe it i think i have one . I hated feeling neglected and ignored emotionally and physically by my wife and felt way way down on her priorities list . She says Im needy and 'mardy' and its emotionally draining for her . I can see where shes coming from, but it hurts to be ignored . Sometimes when we arent talking much or when im working away from home during the week , she can go all week without ringing or txtg , and like you if i txt and dont get a reply its horrible and are left feeling ignored . It SEEMS like its so easy for her to be dark , i dont know if it is or not but it does seem that way . Also when talk of Separation or No love are mentioned , sometimes i feel week at the knees and a sort of panic sets in , just a feeling of hopelessness. I was wondering if you have any techniques to cope with this 'trigger ' . I'd love to keep it in check , and i'd love for you to be able to too. Keep being strong tumbling and i hope things improve or you .
