So here's my story --

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But that's not a boundary, as I understand boundaries. That's an agreement without consequences.

Think about the front door of your house being a boundary. If someone comes in your house uninvited you can say "When you walk in my door uninvited it is disrespectful. If you do that again, I will call the police." (I'm not saying you should do this with OM, this is just an example.)

In your case you could say "W, we agreed you would not bring OM into our house. If you do that again I will_________" Only you know what your bottom line is but a boundary must have a consequence or it is just a wish and a prayer.

Boundaries must be clearly stated and you must be willing to follow through on the consequence.

Is that clearer?