a_man_lost , i really feel for you my friend and can see many simalarities in your sitch with mine , like the friendships and hobbies bit , and you trying to be the best husband and dad you could be for your family . Your W sounds like shes had a lot on her plate emotionally recently , maybe shes just got to digest everything and get closure on some things and she will be a lot more receptive . I hope so and i hope you keep up the good work . Ive also got to GAL from somewhere . Ill look out for you mate .