I just read the castle and the picnic analogy. I LOVE it!
That was me pounding on the castle door, throwing stones at the window when the drawbridge was up, sometimes even lobbing things over the wall!

Now I understand all the other picnic threads. I'm going to sit on the picnic rug myself, it's on the shore, nowhere near the castle grounds and I'm going to be looking out to sea and my future horizon.

H can stay in his castle as long as he likes. He might enjoy the view from there but I prefer the view from here.

ME41 H39
T12 M9
Ilybinilwy 10/2010
H moves out 11/2010
H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011
Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012
Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-)
"Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"