So I went to the gym this morning and then I sent my email about the house quote. I was just friendly: Hi H, hope you're ok and the post-holiday blues aren't too bad. Then I told him I had the quote and that I'd value his opinion on it. Outlined the costs and said I thought it was excessive. Asked for a reply by Weds so that I could move it forward or not. I also mentioned something else that had happened to the house and that I would sms a photo of it. I did not mention the state of our R, ask to see or speak to him (well done Tumbling for not reaching out/starting the cycle).
Spent the rest of the day with a friend which was really good - a long walk and an evening meal. I did mention H's behaviour a bit. I guess I'm trying to make sense of his words/actions - tell me he wants to make things right, text me everyday for nearly 3 weeks, tell me he has landed and then radio silence. What's that all about? I know...don't believe any of what they say and half of what they do.
Came home just now and there was zero from H either to the email or the photo. No acknowledgement. The no response isn't hurting my heart (rejection alarm off) but I do think it rude, I wouldn't not respond at all (is that judgemental?).
Right now I definitely feel better off our crazy pursue/hide roller coaster and wonder why I even want to bother with H when he is like this. I'm curious though to see what happens next and know I will need DB support to not get back on the ride but see if there is another way.
So back to work tomorrow for 3 days and then I'm going to sunnier climes for a week's R&R. Change of scene will hopefully help switch my head fully onto me.
O to help with my GAL planning things for me. I've renamed Sunday to Funday and am arranging something to do going forwards on my weekends.
Tumbling
Me 41 H39 T12 M9 No kids Bomb Oct 2010 and H moves out H moves back Sep 2011 and out Nov 2011 Piecing on and off since then til now Currently tumbling on my own rather than riding our cycling roller coaster
ME41 H39 T12 M9 Ilybinilwy 10/2010 H moves out 11/2010 H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011 Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012 Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-) "Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"
