ss, maybe just sit on it for a few days and see what comes up. You're always pretty sure of your own mind. I think starting with #1 is a good idea, if he gets hinky about that, then you have your answer.

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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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