sorry I meant to mention this...I read earlier the bit about the soul agreement and later reading Pema in the bath that came back to me and it was good. I like the idea of thinking anyone you meet there's a soul agreement already there of what will happen so give up trying to affect an outcome, or worry about what will happen. Maybet that's all been pre decided and you just need to learn the lesson that's there. sorry for putting my musings on your thread...I just connected with that...thank you