Divorced #5. And I think Im getting it..

[Mrs D]

I'd still go for the "believe nothing they say" creed.

For Mrs D:
Is not taking him at his word validating him? Or is it saying, "I know what's best for you". I think this is the 50% you believe because to do otherwise shows a lack of respect for a person you say you love. It also continues the enmeshment.

What do his actions tell you?

His actions tell me hes confused.