Still think its a defense mechanism but who knows.
Went to a wedding today. These people are great together. Had tears in my eyes most the times remembering our wedding day. Ugh. Hopr everyone's Saturday was awesome.
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
well, then you need to move on. if he doesn't mean it, you'll know. if he does, then you've started on your path to a new and better life.
why is it better? because it's for you and you will not be wasting time, pining after a man who no longer wants to be with you. years go by quickly. at this point, you have to take him at his word.
I'd still go for the "believe nothing they say" creed.
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M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Mrs. D - do you feel he has moved on? I mean, really FEEL it? You can take him at his word, you can ignore it - but what do you feel in your heart? You know the answer.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page
I'd still go for the "believe nothing they say" creed.
For Mrs D: Is not taking him at his word validating him? Or is it saying, "I know what's best for you". I think this is the 50% you believe because to do otherwise shows a lack of respect for a person you say you love. It also continues the enmeshment.
What do his actions tell you?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
well, then you need to move on. if he doesn't mean it, you'll know. if he does, then you've started on your path to a new and better life.
why is it better? because it's for you and you will not be wasting time, pining after a man who no longer wants to be with you. years go by quickly. at this point, you have to take him at his word.
I'd still go for the "believe nothing they say" creed.
Kinda what I thought as well Arsene
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
Mrs. D - do you feel he has moved on? I mean, really FEEL it? You can take him at his word, you can ignore it - but what do you feel in your heart? You know the answer.
Regretful, no I dont feel as if he has moved on. I think he has a huge wall up concerning me because of the past three years. He said so himself Friday night he is afraid to let himself get close again. He thinks I would toss our relationship again in 8 months. Hes scared. Hes scared of the love he feels for me, and hes afraid of me hurting him again.
If I thought he had moved on, I wouldnt have stayed all night at his place. He would have locked the doors. He would have asked me to leave. He didnt. And I think that speaks more than anything.
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
I'd still go for the "believe nothing they say" creed.
For Mrs D: Is not taking him at his word validating him? Or is it saying, "I know what's best for you". I think this is the 50% you believe because to do otherwise shows a lack of respect for a person you say you love. It also continues the enmeshment.
What do his actions tell you?
His actions tell me hes confused.
M:43/ H:39 T:12/ M:9 S8, D15 M affair(one night): 2/09 M EA: 2/12-7/12 D:6/7/12 H: GF since 7/24/12
God,Family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi
