zig, I focused so much on the toilet brush that I looked past the info your friend gave you.
I too had to have a talk with family and friends about giving me 2nd hand info. I made it very clear that it served no purpose in helping me take care of myself so that I can take care of my kids. Why did I need to know that he was spending the night at OWs place or that he was taking our kids over there? Seriously! This was Hs n my business not everyone else's.
Take care of Zig and everything else will fall into place. HEY! Didn't you just write that to me! LOL! hugs!!!
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017