Thanks Brit. I'm glad I recognized that also. It was a quiet recognition - and also a sort of quiet humble acknowledgement that I don't really truly KNOW h as a person - he has kept himself so hidden from me all these years. as i did from him..

on some deep level we didn't trust each other to show our true selves. we weren't vulnerable with each other

and yes - i do see it the same way - that I need help, and i'm going to ask for it. we talk so much about the "addiction; behaviors that the WAS are displaying - but we have so many ourselves that develop in this sitch.

I've also been feeling more and more strongly that i need to take some time off the bb - I come here too frequently and spend too much time reading, not to mention posting.
over these months though, i have noticed that it has helped me stay more centered, but i'm in a different place now and I guess I want to find out if i can be centered and focused without so much support.

I'm thinking though that a transition maybe what's more appropriate for me - where I don't post so much myself, but still continue to post to others and keep the goals thread going and see where that takes me.

I'm so lucky to have found this bb and all of you here. It's time to step out of myself and give more than what I am taking all the time

I really have grown to love all the amazing people here

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me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"