I agree with what you are saying. This has been tremendously hard on her and our relationship. The problem is that she is my absolute best chance at getting the court to understand what is going on with my Crazy Ex! My W (Child Psychologist) pushed me to peruse full custody and without her involvement I have little hope of changing that situation. So my options are to involve her and try and keep it limited or to completely pull her out of the situation and most likely end up not being about to show the court what is going on with my x and my kids.
If I go down that road then my W will be gone for sure. She can not deal with having my x having so much control over our lives. Sure I can set up rules and guidleines about how we deal with that situation but my kids come home and it takes them at least a day to recove from being with thier mother and that is what is hardest on my W.
M-45 W-44 2D - 11&13 2SS - 11&17 Married 10/10/10 Bomb 3/5/12 Moved 5 houses away 4/20/12 Back together 9/12 Seperated 6/13 Divorce Final 11/13/13