Dropping the rope, hope I'm doing the right thing.

[needgrace]

HI SS,

i am so inspired and impressed by how you have taken control of your own happiness and are really looking hard at what you need in a M.

Your list has been bothering me since I first read it and I am not sure exactly why. I am not sure if I am projecting my own stuff on it, but it feels overwhelming to me. As I write this I am wondering if it reminds me of the list my W came up w/ about my faults when we first started this journey. I remember thinking that she was not looking at me with "kind eyes" and that no M can survive without that.. and it felt like no matter what I did, it was wrong.. if felt like she did not want there to be any hope, that the list was not to work things out but to allow her to walk away.

i know your sitch is way way different and you were the one left behind.. and i apologize if my sitch is getting in the way of how i see yours..

but i wonder if your list reflects more of the hurt of what you have been through and less of what you really truly need and is less flexible than who you really are under that hurt..

just my very biased 2 cents.. i hope that is okay, SS.. ((((((((((( ))))))))))))