Fair points Denver. When my W was involved with OM I could have lit myself on fire and rode a unicycle around the kitchen juggling chainsaws and I don't think she would have noticed. My sister cheated on her husband and same thing, she had tunnel vision for the guy and my brother-in-law was invisible. Every sitch is different, I only have two data points of personal observation plus my readings here. I supposed in some cases the cheating WAS would feel less guilty if the LBS started dating too.
Accuray
That seems to be the case with my W. In the past, she'd even recommended a few women to me telling me it would make me feel better and make it easier on me. I'd reply that it would make HER feel better and make it easier on HER.
The funny thing is that she came at me with venom and demands for divorce when she thought I was seeing someone. No point in trying to read their minds.
Right now, she is still in A but also seems somewhat interested in what I do. Every sitch is indeed different.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
