My children returned from their weekend with their father today. The first thing my d (7) told me was that they had had lunch with the teacher that my husband is having relationship with and one of her sons. I asked why they would do this and they said "I don't know". My son (9) is very bright and will be very confused this situation. He is seeing a psychologist and she told my husband that it is too soon to introduce the teacher into the mix as the children are really shocked and surprised by our breakup and are having a difficult time processing everything. Why would my husband defy her recommendations and do this to our children. It is so selfish.
I know that I have a huge part to play in the demise of our relationship. I have punished my husband for things and held grudges unnecessarily. We fell into a pattern of blaming and sulking. I have spent a great deal of time wishing I could do things differently. My husband is very much into physical touch and I punished him by withholding this and we got into a pattern. I spent many nights thinking I should just reach out to him and I didn't because pride got in my way.
My husband has no desire to salvage our relationship. I do believe he is wired differently to others. There has never been one moment of regret or remorse or apology for the pain or humiliation he has caused me or the children by the public way our breakup has occurred. I am a private person and my breakup is open to public gossip by the whole school and town network. So selfish if my husband. He says it us all my fault. I have confided in two people. My husband has been away with his new partner several times and has been seen out with her. We live in a very small expat community so everyone knows all. My husband stood in our kitchen 5 months ago a and promised he would never disrespect me by going out with a teacher from the children's school. Liar
My husband now wants me to attend a theme park with our 7 y/o for her birthday. I must add that when we told the children we were separating, something i did not want to do, he promised the children we were friends and we would go on holiday together. Since then he has spent a ridiculous amount of money preventing me from holidaying with him and the older children because he was pissed off with me for changing the locks on our house.I do not want to give my children false hope but I do not want my husband to miss out on the fabulous new me. What do I do?
