I think I see the picnic!

[BklynMom]

Being a mom of 2 little ones is the hardest thing in the world.

You seem like you know what the right behavior for you is.

I do myself use a combination of attachment me parenting and the occasional time out. I never use time out when the kids are melting down, when they are melting down they either need a hug or sleep.

Whenever I feel like I am losing it more with the kids I know I have to do something for myself. If you need to hire a babysitter to get to a Alanon meeting hire a babysitter. Give that to yourself.

Sometimes I skip meetings cause I think "well my kids need me at home", the truth is most importantly they need a sane and calm mother. Take care of yourself and your kids and hire a sitter for meetings (in my area there are some family meetings where you can bring kids)

Also whenever I feel crazy, I have a cleaning lady come.

My final tip, I have become friends with a 12 year old girl on the block who loves to come over and play with my kids. I pay her $5 an hour. (you may be able to find a girl on craigslist) I don't leave the house while she is here but it gives me time to do stuff around the house or check these boards or take a shower.

Go easy on yourself. You are doing a great job in a very hard sitch.