IH Separation-continuing to grow as we grow apart

[breakdownbill]

Hi Denver
Thanks for the input

I lived my own life, SEPARATE, from my W.

I'm doing this to an extent but it's hard because we still live together.

But there was no way in hell that I was going to hang out with her or provide her what a H provides a W while she was spending time with OM.

Did this include time spent with your SS? Did you do everything on your own with him? I'm just asking because this is the only time we spend together outside of the house.

YOU CAN wait this out while also enforcing a boundary that you will NOT be a part of an open M.

I feel like this is what I am doing, but I need to take Bond's advice about enforcing boundaries,

I know how difficult this is. I just lived it.

You went through a lot Denver in your sitch and I get why you stuck it out so long to get to the point you are at right now.

A big part of me feels that I owe it to myself to try & hang in there as long as possible. By that I just mean leaving the door open to a R if my W will commit to working on the M.

I don't justify the affair because of our joint failings in the M, I just see it as another barrier to overcome.

I am working hard on myself physically & emotionally to be a better me, a better dad and a better man.

There will come a point if this affair / contact continues when I won't be able to leave the door open and I'll need to move on.