Fair points Denver. When my W was involved with OM I could have lit myself on fire and rode a unicycle around the kitchen juggling chainsaws and I don't think she would have noticed. My sister cheated on her husband and same thing, she had tunnel vision for the guy and my brother-in-law was invisible. Every sitch is different, I only have two data points of personal observation plus my readings here. I supposed in some cases the cheating WAS would feel less guilty if the LBS started dating too.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015