From my first impression your W doesn't hate you, but what you have become. She probably saw the warning signs a long time ago and is kicking herself for having ignored them. On top of them you have a history of relapsing. That's not good.
Now I can somewhat relate to you, I always think that I would have become an addict had I not been killed in PVP 3 times within the first 20 minutes of playin Everquest. I was frustrated I rage quit the game and all online games.
Nonetheless me and W are in our late 20's and we are quite the gamers. One of the things we have done right is subconciously realizing that one of our love languages is quality time. So we try to go out as much as we can.
Now I realize this is hard for you since you are separated, but you have precious time with your children. Make that count. If seeing you with her children having a good time will help you.
Now not to sound like a nagger but its time to go get some "real" friends. This is what GAL is all about. Like gaming pick up a sport, the "original" game. Miss role playing games find a D&D group. Its relatively cheap (unlike say a monthly subscription, or magic the gathering). Most importantly you'll get your fix while being forced to interact with real live people. If the group doesn't meet you can't play, it may be a good compromise. Best part is no electronic stuff, all pen and paper.
I can't stress how important taking up a sport can be. It'll get you in shape, build confidence, and maybe even impress your wife. If its a team sport you'll make even more friends.
This could be one of those rare opportunities where you reshape your life. Think of it this way you have to woo her all over again. So you have to be the best man you can be.
