Your post made me smile! I felt like I was reading a scene right out of a movie. Hey, maybe we could work on a movie script... It could be called "My Husband Was An Alien", and could star Russell Crowe as your H. Let's find some hot actress to play you!
Just one thing... Would it be a comedy? Drama? Love story? Feels like we live out all of these everyday!
I can't even imagine ML to my H at this point, not until the man I know would be in his body. Hopefully, he wouldn't insist on wearing a bath towel either
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Call it "My Husband IS an Alien" or "What about Me". I don't expect the MLC will end any time soon. Am just taking one day at a time. Nothing else has changed, but I am happy our connection is is currently strong, and I managed to overcome the sleeping arrangements problem for now. Overall he is being kind to me.
I have bought a beautiful dress to wear on the cruise, but it needs altering (I sew). I tried it on to show H and I have to say it looked stunning. He momentarily looked at me, then pushed past me to go and get the shirt and tie he intended to wear to work..."how does this look?". I've seen it a million times before!!!! He's now outside in his speedos sunbaking by the pool with his cigarettes handy. He's a 54 year old man who looks like a leather handbag because his skin is so aged. Something you'd do if you were 18. Oh well that's his sh!t to deal with.
I was trying to be positive by using the word "was" in the movie title. Who would want to see a movie about a lifetime of this crap?!?!? That would definitely be a horror movie!
That is such typical MLC nonsense when you tried on the dress... He KNOWS you are attractive!!!! But heaven forbid the attention is taken off of him!
I'm surprised he's not heavily using anti-aging creams to counteract his sun worshipping. A speedo AND a cigarette? Honestly, how do you keep a straight face
Keep on smiling through it all...
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Hey TVS for someone who is trying to look young..its the worst thing you could do. Remains to be seen if I will go and visit him in hospital if he gets a lung disorder or melanoma. Self-inflicted...sorry but I don't have much sympathy for that.
Its so hard for them to give a compliment or take the focus off themselves, I wouldn't like to be like that, I get much pleasure out of giving more than I receive. A little compliment every now and then wouldn't go astray. Always hoping.
GB, how could he NOT notice you! That would be so hard to take!
Tvs & I would've told you how beautiful you looked! I'm sure you did! But you'll look like a trophy wife next to your H on the cruise! You can just smile!!!
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
Sometimes being here and reading everyone's posts is what helps to keep me sane. I think it's the reinforcing how others' spouses are acting insane too.
I understand the feeling needy at times RH. There are times I NEED to talk with a good friend about all this madness or feel the need to come here to read and post. The sitch with your H still amazes me. Does he plan on coming over to grill after a D? I think you know where you should tell him to stick his tongs if he does!
Gal, it IS frustrating to not be noticed by our H. After reading so much, I absolutely see the distancer/pursuer dynamic to our R. Even now, H doesn't like it if he thinks I'm mad at him. (unless it has to do with BFF/OW - then he doesn't seem to care). I remember a few months ago, I was giving him the cold shoulder. He proceeded to follow me around. He complimented me on the color of my nail polish! What?!?! There are times in general when I will "catch" him checking me out, but he won't say anything. Whatever.
As for your cruise, I say YOU take the opportunity to get yourself some new clothes. I have no doubt that your H will notice, whether he says anything or not! And besides, looking good makes us feel good. That is something I have discovered. Do I like compliments from my H? Sure. Do I need them? Not anymore.
Keep reading and posting ladies!
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
I say thank goodness for this site and all the really valuable reading material i've gotten my hands on. I would have definitely gone insane by now. Some days I just can believe what i'm seeing.
My H has always had the tendency to focus on himself and have a temper, but he has definitely taken it to the extreme now. Its very evident to everyone but himself. His work colleagues haven't seen that side of him. He is Mr Congeniality. It is an important part of his job to be like that and he takes it very seriously, so seriously in fact that all that's left for us is Mr Cranky Pants.
I'm sorry your H has to display his bad temper in front of the ones he loves the most! My dad was like that and I always thought that if he acted at work like he did at home he woukd have no job.
Sorry you have to have that burden, too.
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
I can relate Gal. It's interesting how they seem to be able to turn it off and on at times. Though I must say, back in the really dark days after bomb, my H was miserable with everyone. Various people in his life noticed the changes in him.
Could it be that they are really mad at themselves? I feel like it constantly flip flops between being mad at themselves and being mad at the world.
Hope you're having a good weekend. I keep meaning to ask you... Any news on the job front? Are you still painting with your friend?
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
