IH Separation-continuing to grow as we grow apart

[chatterbug]

A few thoughts here. Your wife works you do not. So do not affect her work.
It has been 10 months now.


So exposure now is kind of mute. I think you should let your parents know just so they can support you and your kids.

Her parents. Well how close are you ? I told her parents and it was hard. But I wanted them to know the truth.

And I told a few good friends who would remain on the side lines and support both of us.

If I knew they would pick sides then I kept quiet.

And I did it within 24 hours.

And the reason I did it was to support both of us. Now and down the road. And I did it within 2 weeks of finding out.

A race of the truth. And she was a combination of mad , ticked off , embarrassed and shocked.

My reason was to tell the truth and seek support. We had no kids but we had a niece and nephew on her side that were basically our children. At the time they were 17 and 14. And I told them.

My wordings were to support both of us. But not support the affair.

Personally this is a very personal choice. Heh

Once it is out there you cannot control it. Do not do it to force shame. Or to snap her out of it. You only talk to those who will help you and your children and your wife. No matter if your D or not. For they have unconditional love for all of you.

Now if OM was a judge or MC I would report them as they are abusing their position in society.

Michele has written some beautiful work here. Her words of 'DB' will improve your life completely with every relationship you have. I like to read her books every few months. Along with hold on to your nuts. They are a good balance.

You see she promotes a strong sense of self. It just gets lost in the execution from time to time.

The current conversations have done what the goal was.

For you to question your current moment.

So take that moment and look at your plans.

You know you can always file. That will say more than everything you have said and what your exposure will say.

IMHO. I would just talk to parents and a few close friends. I would say that you want them to support both of you. Mind you time line is stale.

And she will come at you on that. So you have to be ready on that.

D8 will need to know but you can judge when.

See your starting to realize about the ticking clock and her actions is causing you to lose your love and respect for her.

And I think you have that nagging feeling in the background of once a cheater...

But the good news is that you can still treat her as a lady. Be a gentleman. Honour the love you have for her and always make sure the kids know to treat their mother with respect and love.

I will stress. PMA and school is your primary goal now. Do not become undone.

So why are you wanting to expose now so late in the game ??????