A few things you posted earlier have got me thinking & I wanted to get your opinion on a couple of things.
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I started the parallel path the day I asked ladybug to stop the affair and work on the marriage.
After you asked her to end the affair, did you ever consider exposing the affair? I know it's not something MWD recommends, but a lot of other authors & sites promote it alot.
They say it takes all the excitement away & if the right person challenges them about their behaviour it can be a massive wake up call to what they are doing.
The more I think about my sitch, the longer I stand by and let this affair continue, the more likely we'll end up divorced.
What you say about DB for affairs is spot on IMO, I mean it mentions in DR on p216-17 about working out what needs the OP is fulfilling & it mentions keeping a low profile not discussing the affair or reacting to it, GALing & being the person they want you to be & they will hopefully come to their senses & realise the grass isn't greener.
This is a very emasculating way of dealing with an affair that is enabling the cheating spouse to continue their affair without challenge & is unlikely to make them stop the affair because it is being tolerated.
I'm a bit torn on continuing solely with this approach, (I mean DB promotes self improvement anyway) to the OM - but not 100% sold that exposing it (to the right people - not everyone) is the way to go either. (pro's & cons fest)
Gonna have to think this one over a bit.
Bill
BTW Arsene, feel free to hijack this thread whenever you get the chance
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
