Hello everyone , Ive been lurking on here for a few weeks and thought its about time i joined up , in the hope of some of your excellent support and advice . Im not sure where to start my story really as my brain is still quite scrambled , but here goes ; Im from England but im in a simalar sitch to many folks on here . Ive been married to my W for 2 1/2 years and together for 6 . Last year just after our first anniversary , my wife dropped the bomb . ILYBNILWY . didnt want to talk about it didnt want to be around me etc etc . Bang a massive shock, she asked me to move out to give her some space . I obliged and went to my parents for 3 months . I was heartbroken, confused , rejected all those emotions .I sort counselling and had about 8 sessions , they were really helpfull . She didnt want any counselling , not for her , knows her own mind , doesnt need anyone to tell her how she should feel etc . I realized that i had issues { trust , low esteem ,) id brought them with me from a previous relationship 10 years earlier where id been cheated on . Anyway i realized it was unfair of me to portray my wife as someone who would do the same , and i set about being the nicest bloke i could possibly be around her . It was a long process , but gradually things got a lot better and i foolishly thought that we had managed to reconcilliate . About 12-13 months later , she dropped the bomb again , only now its i really care for you and your a lovely man but i just dont love you . Whats a bit different in my sitch is my W is saying its all her. Its not me its her to blame . Its just she doesnt love me like a W should love her H . She has been really honest with me from day 1 i think , and i 100% believe her when she says there isnt a 3rd party involved , im sure people have caught her eye but thats all. This time though it feels like she has completely checked out . I did all the things i shouldnt have and am going to try the 180 method . She says im very attentive husband , but we are wrong for each other . i have known for ages she isnt really into me at all in aphysical way . I feel like she isnt interested at all , and has her mind made up about a separation in the new year , she keeps saying lets just get to the end of the year and then try a trial separation , but one with hardly any contact . We have 2 girls 11 {my SD) and 5 my D Im 36 W 32 Together 6 Married 2 1/2 Sorry for the long opening message . Is this simalar to anyone elses predicament ?
