Dealing with Anger

[Arsene]

Ok Bond, Thanks for that. I think I understand what you are saying even if I don't totally agree with it. So what do you recommend?

If I tell W to leave OM. Where she is at now, she'll probably laugh and say what? "I'm not your wife anymore. I do what I want"

I could go after the OM because he is planting ideas in W. but what should I do with him? In this country I could probably get him killed (and they'll make it look like an accident) for about 500 USD. I'm not convinced that it would send W back to me.

I could file for D. Hmm, yeah, I'm not ready to do this so it would merely be a ploy to push W to do something she isn't ready to do on her own yet (reconsider M). How long would our R last, SHOULD she come back? If she decided that she still didn't want back, I might lose D8 in the process. (BTW, I don't think I'm ready to reconcile anyway. Still too many issues to work on).

I could just go dark but that again, wouldn't be for me but to make her miss me (and I'm not sure she would right now either) so not a good tactic either.

I'm at a loss Bond. I'm really not sure what it is I'm doing wrong according to you. And please believe me I'm not being a smarta$$. I just don't get what you think I'm dong wrong and what I should be doing instead.

Thanks for your time Bond.