Dropping the rope, hope I'm doing the right thing.

[Accuray]

Well SS, this is exactly where DB is supposed to lead, so pat yourself on the back, you've arrived! The real tragedy seems to be that by the time you get here, you no longer *need* your spouse back and can look at it more or less rationally.

If I were in your place and decided I was willing to give it another shot, I'd probably insist on Retrovaille plus a long reading list for W, and she would have to *prove* that her new attitude was permanent and not born of short term pain.

I think that's the tough thing for the WAS (which you are becoming), you probably have a better chance with your spouse than with a stranger if you could find a way to erase the scars and the baggage of what has transpired.

I wish you the best, you have earned it!

Accuray