Should I start seeing other women? seriously? You think you are anywhere near ready to date OWs?
Like you are emotionally available for a relationship w/someone else, WHILE wanting your w back?
Or you just want to have sex or companionship.
I'm actually curious b/c your previous posts show you want to be m to your w, you are "going to be patient" and "be a gentleman" when she looks your way, "Sticking to the plan", etc
but then you ask THIS question, maybe 48 HOURS after you discover your w is seeing OM...
It's not fair to OWs to date right now. It's FINE to be mysterious. You don't have to tell your w you are not dating.
But I cannot imagine it doing much but complicating your life at the moment.
Sometime from now if you are giving up, AND have learned something about yourself, then maybe you will be ready. Dating now will stop your growth and introspection. For ME, that's the biggest reason not to date so damn fast.
You'll also lose any moral high ground w/your wife when she learns that you began dating while being married AND while saying you wanted to make it work.
The reason SO MANY 2nd m's end in divorce (more than the first ones) is b/c of folks who rush into a new relationship b/c of their utter terror of being alone for a bit. They learn little to nothing about what went wrong in their first r, and they stop looking in the mirror and halt all inner progress.
What is the rush?
Am a good looking talented guy and I get offers all the time. Is that GAL or is that just putting nails in my coffin?
Kevin.
To me, at this point, it'll look very needy and weak and "young"-as in not mature. Like a tit for tat or a man who HAS to have a woman on his arm all the time.
See what Bond or others think. I'm pretty opinionated on this.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
