So obviously I need to just keep being true to myself and realize that if someone can't be friends or more with me as I AM, then that person is the one with the issue, not me.
Or put another way, they have different needs and wants then you do. Here's the thing in my opinion: you took a step and tried something out. You learned sooooo much from the past and from that experience. That's a good thing. Learning to date is more about us learning what we do and do not want and what we will and will not do. It's about learning if we can be ourselves and be loved for who we are. Learning what we are willing to change about ourselves (sacrifices for the sake of a relationship in any relationship are normal, but can be unhealthy if taken too far, right?)
I think you learned something very valuable in this past relationshihp. I think it's a very valuable lesson because it helps shape your acceptance of you to a whole new level. We sometimes see ourselves differently. That's based on experiences and you are out gaining new experiences. Some experience in being alone is also a good thing as we get to know ourselves without other external factors.
I'm proud of you for standing up to get what you want out of a relationship. I know it is not as much fun as we'd like, but I see it as a growth opportunity.
I did similar. I'm still learning to try and be friends with that person. I can tell you it is not easy if that helps, but for me that's something I want to learn to do if possible. Learning what a normal relationship looks like after being married for so long. To do that, there are many growth opportunities. Some are not as much fun as others, but they are all valuable.
Be true to you always. Don't be anyone else, Ant. It's not a good path and you are loveable just as you are.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
