labug: One of the first things I learned when I came to the board was to NOT be so reactive. To stop and listen to what someone else was trying to say. To take from it what was helpful to my situation and to way "thanks for the advice" to that which was not.
Remember that we have been here for a long time and seen a lot. Each of you is an individual but to group together and all start spinning from a place of misunderstanding and angst is a waste of energy.
I choose not to post unless I think it might make a difference. I have been through all this for a long time and wouldn't bother to say anything unless I thought someone MIGHT benefit from some of it.
