Letting people live their lives and GALing...

[AntoniaB]

BeingMe I love this part: "NEED makes a slave of you, WANT sets you free". That's so awesome, I'm going to memorize that and repeat as necessary!!

You also hit the nail on the head with the part about the effort to mold yourself into someone else's idea of perfection. My doctor told me I couldn't negotiate a friendship with the guy I was seeing unless I would be entirely "myself" with him. The funny thing is that there was a period of time, even a short period, where I was entirely myself with him, and it was when we were friends only, no bennies ;-) Once physicality got in there, I suddenly was wanting to make him commit to me, and that's what drove the whole Antonia trying to be a slightly altered version of herself.

So obviously I need to just keep being true to myself and realize that if someone can't be friends or more with me as I AM, then that person is the one with the issue, not me.

Thanks!