From what you describe, I would imagine that H has a lot of resentment towards his dad, and strangely enough, his Mom...though the resentment towards Mom induces guilt, so up on the pedestal she goes to make the guilt go away. Sounds like he lost some childhood and young adulthood having to take responsibility to be the "man" of the house, since dad couldn't/wouldn't. This reminds me of my dad, who had a similar sitch growing up due to his dad being away in WWII. Does H seem to have a big tendency for denial, especially regarding his mom?
Enough psychoanalyzing..lol...how are YOU doing? From your posts sounds like you are in a "hurry-up-and-wait" phase...I hope you are still finding that humor of yours in this and still being positive.
T^2
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