Talked with DB coach yesterday. She told me something I already knew, but don't want to think about. A MLC can last for 2-5 years! How am I supposed to last that long?
Listed below is the course of action laid out for me:
Appear to not be working on the marriage. (When W questions DB charges on billing statement, explain that the counselors also help individuals move on with their life)
Go on with my life, no waiting around for her to come home. Do more things. Do things that would really surprise her.
Create an exciting life of my own. Adopt a dating mindset,* new clothes, hair cut, teeth whitening, cologne. Have a happy, positive outlook. Create interest.
Watch and notice what catches her interest. What makes her curious? What positive actions does she initiate?
Fellow DB'rs: Please post any specific actions and/or helpful ideas that you think might increase my chances of rebuilding here. Thanks for helping!
*lol. It's been 33 years since I dated, and I was just a teen then!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
