I'm pretty sure Barb was here before me, which was 10 years ago now.
I think the misunderstanding here has to do with the "football team" reference.
Barb, to say someone is dating the football team in the U.S. pretty much means that one is being passed around from one guy to another to be used for sex.
Everyone else, I can assure you that is NOT what Barb meant to imply. She's Canadian. She just meant that Brit has been dating several guys. Which she has.
So, pull that out of your craw, everyone else, and listen to the message. I'll repeat it. I, of all people, cannot guarantee any more tact.
Brit. You are all over the place. People who are DONE with their Ms don't text with their STBX's about motorcycle stuff. You are nowhere near done. It is crystal clear that neither you nor H are anywhere close to an emotional D.
In the meantime, you are BOTH doing a whole lot of stuff that muddies the issues and really gets you nowhere. It is really pretty clear that your life is bouncing all around and there is a lot of self-medicating-as-dating going on.
Look, I don't no ANYONE who didn't go a bit wild through the emotional D process, Sun among them. It isn't about that. It is about where you are now.
You aren't done. You're all over the place. Step back. DB. And, when Barb says to be, it is ABOUT YOU. Because, that is what DB is -- it is really about us becoming happy, whole, strong, independent, passionate people.
What you are doing now is getting in your way. Crystal clear from here. I have no doubt. Barb doesn't either. And it is pretty easy to see why.
We have perspective that you don't. It is like watching a kid stick a finger in an electric socket -- it just isn't going to work out well.
Take a deep breath. Table dating. Get some genuine space from H. Take care of yourself.
