If you need to separate for your sanity then do it. If it will help your Marriage, then do it. But don't do it because you want to teach her lesson. This may/not backfire.

Con't GAL and working on yourself. Stop trying to bust her. It will take her time to detach from OM and by you busting her (pressuring) she will struggle more.

M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017