Time for an Introduction...and Thanks

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Brian,
Thanks for stopping back by with kind words and support. They are much appreciated. I'm starting to believe more and more that I don't deserve to be treated this way. It's not like I thought I DID in the past it was just easier to make excuses for his lack of effort, etc. because we were together, and that's "just how he was"

Zig - Thank you for finding me! I agree. I had laid out to him several days ago the options my attorney told me were available in regards to our upcoming court date. I got no response from him so was just going to let it go. Remarkably HE contacted me yesterday with what he wanted to do and it was to have my A ask for more time. Seems I've spent so much TIME in this already but I'll take it. The hope for ultimately a better/new marriage in the future is worth it and at a minimum a better ME.
I do plan on posting more. The people here are awesome and so full of knowledge and understanding.

Journaling - I do need to just get this out there. H and I have had very limited communication the past few days. He had planned to take S to baseball practice on Wed and ended up not doing it. No explanation, just a "sorry if you're mad about today" text when I asked him when he might be available next week. I indicated I wasn't mad, just wanted to know when I could get some help with scheduling.
No communication at all after that. Yesterday afternoon out of the blue H sent a text saying "did you hear about the guy that got ran over by a truck this morning" my initial thought was is this a joke I should know the punchline to. The next was does H know he is texting me. I replied no and after a bit more back and forth H finally communicated that it was one of the truck drivers at his work who had been involved in the accident, that his boss had called him very early in the morning to let him know someone had been run over. I just responded with "That must have been scary when you didn't know the circumstances".
Just ODD. I just don't get the complete NC and then a message like this from out of nowhere.
He did end up asking me if I had talked to my A. I told him no as I had not heard from him what he wanted to do. He ended up saying if more time was needed then he was fine with that. Wondering if all the talk prior to this question was just a lead up. Little visit from crazyville yesterday.