Welcome to Surviving/Thriving. I am sorry that you find yourself here as the goal of course is to try to save the marriage. Saving yourself though is the ultimate goal.
I didn't see how long you had been married, how old you are, kids and their ages. That sort of thing helps alot when you come to a new forum.
We have seen many cases of people getting into relationships way too quickly after the divorce not to mention any prior to the end of the marriage. We as a group look out for each other but we also can be pretty blunt when need be.
I hope you stay and continue to grow and heal.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory