Letting people live their lives and GALing...

[ericmsant2]

But it was never consistent--and it was entirely controlled by him.

Have you ever really wrote down (and I know that you are a writer ) what YOU want in a partner? And I mean some specifics…for example if you like when someone calls you AT LEAST daily then that should be something that is on your list. If you want the type of partner that tells you when they leave work, etc. Get specific, I think (only my opinion) that this type of exercise helps.

For awhile I just told myself look, you have to be less needy, and you don't want this going "codependent" on you, and so you need to spend time with your friends or alone and just be ok with letting him live his life apart from you, ultimately it's good that you have time apart.

It’s funny someone once said to me that the “boards” are really good at teaching one to detach…what they are not good at is teaching someone to “re-attach”. From my own experience….it is all a learning experience. All of it.

So two weeks ago, I finally stood up and stuck to things and I am not going back to how things were.

My o my have we grown! I am soooo proud of YOU Antonia!

(of course some are stuck with STBXH's right in the same house, so I know I don't have it THAT difficult).

Ummmm…..yep!