sunfun - one could say you have the benefit of the doubt by only reading this one post of brit - and having the reaction you did.
but i see your info and you've been around since '09. so i assume you've read A LOT of posts here. if anyone should know and understand , it should be someone like you - that there is a helluva lot more to anyone's story than just one post.
so just based on that, to put your first response to brit in the form you did, is irresponsible to say the least.
if you had questions, you could have asked them of her, politely and with respect before you used phrases such as "dating the football team". got more info on her sitch before you drew a picture that was rather vivid!!
or , of course, you could have just said welcome, non-judgementally, and then taken the time respectfully to go read her threads before you came to any conclusions.
seems to me that maybe you didn't get the message about DB'ing all that well, if this is the way you respond to people you don't even know.
I will warn you, there's a damn posse of us over on the newcomers board who LOVE Brit with all our hearts, and we'll be damned if we'll let anyone talk to her that way!! Those are quite the conclusions you jumped to there, and judging from the tone you used - something in what Brit wrote has triggered off something within you. that's the only reason I can think of for a post like that.
I do hope to see you apologize to Brit and then we can all help and support her through this painful time in her life. Even though she is doing her best to be very positive and forward looking , she still needs our support and caring attitude. and i hope that you can be there for her in that way along with the rest of us
I'm sorry to be so sharp, but you've obviously triggered something off in me too
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