I think that you have been amazing to handle all of this so calmly for so long. I'm so sorry that your sitch has gone on for so long.
I'm pleased for you that you are trying to focus on yourself and your kids.
about what is going on in your sitch - unless you are really done, it may be wiser for you to just turn away from your h, rather than helping him or forcing him into doing things . let him decide when he responds to anything to do with the D, let him decide to take the next steps - you just focus and taking your own steps for yourself, and responding when and if you have to. in other words, just doing the bare minimum for the situation.
Focusing on getting your own full life, regardless of where he's at is the key for you - and will continue to be.
I'm glad you came back to the boards - and it would be great if you posted more frequently so we can support you. It's difficult and painful what you are going through, and this is the place where you will get the most support and validation - which you need right now. also you will feel less lonely being able to talk to others who are going through the same thing
glad to meet you FIO -and i hope you are going to have a lovely day today, in spite of...
zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
