Letting people live their lives and GALing...

[ericmsant2]

Antonia,

I am sorry that things did not work out between you and the guy you were seeing.

But I also think they just plain don't get it.

I’m not sure this statement will help……..

What I have learned/accepted is that I no longer need people to “get it”. I have accepted that many will not. On one hand it would be nice if they did, I just accept that they may never and no longer look to try and explain my feeling or positions to people that more than likely will not “get it”. The feelings I feel are mine. The dreams and desires I have are mine. This may sound a bit insensitive – I think it is not. For me it has been much more freeing. Free from everyone opinions and true acceptance that this is really MY LIFE.

I've GALed like crazy, made new friends, better relationships, written a book, taken care of my home and cats as best as I could, faced having to euthanize two cats all by myself, gone through the first relationship since my marriage that has come to an end, what more do you people want from me? I just can't be perfect. Medicating me doesnt' make the problems go away by magic.

1) Re read all that YOU have done.
2) IMO, people will always want MORE…they tend to want things done there way. This is really your life Antonia – everyone will not always agree with how you choose to live and deal with things. Maybe coming to peace with that will help.
3) You are not expected to be perfect – that wonderful trait belongs to God. So just be YOU. F what everyone else says.

I do suspect the end of the rel. with the new guy is hurting more than I care to admit

Yep….I would agree.

Antonia, this lonliness that you feel, the frustration, I think it is all part of the process – or post process if you will that we go through. Everyone heals at there own pace, everyones story is just a little different. My suggestion (FWIW) would be….

1) Give yourself sometime to get over your last R. while doing that….
2) Be really honest with yourself about what YOU feel comfortable changing that may change your life a little bit….for example…is it time to move, time to change your job – these things are all BIG issues to face and deal with…so take your time.
3) Figure out what it is that YOU really want going forward. You can always change your mind and probably will as you grow. Personally I think we all do.

Finally, message me…I have a group that YOU just may be interested in.

Smile – you really are an amazing person – don’t doubt it!